The Ladder

Okay, so like always, I'll give a reason to write this. One reason, I'm bored. Second, I'm not sure this will help me or others in any way, but it's worth a shot. Heck, I'm not even sure if the people it can help read this blog. Anyways, I'm going to try to use a funny analogy when explaining the ladder so hopefully you can follow along. Remember this is an analogy, but the ladder does exist, just not in the way I'm using it.
Everybody likes cupcakes, if you don't you're a Communist. Everyone bakes their own cupcake and it is as unique as the person baking it. Naturally your cupcake is good, after all, you baked it. Your cupcake is so good in fact, that you'd like to share it with someone. Not just anyone though, can't be letting some anti-cupcake Communist have a taste. Here's the good part of the deal, if you share your cupcake with someone, they'll share their own with you, after all, both of you have some really good cupcakes.
Now the ladder comes into play. Like I said earlier, I'm using an analogy for all of this, the ladder is also an analogy, but a more strict one. Remember, the ladder exist no matter what analogy you use for the cupcakes. Here's how it works. You want to share your cupcake with someone, they want to share their own with someone else, that someone else has yet another person they want to share it with. See the ladder yet. A=Person, B= Another Person, C= Other Person, D= Yet Another. A wants to share with B, B wants to share with C, C wants to share with D.
Here's the kicker, I'm only using four rungs on this ladder, it's entirely possible that this ladder is bigger than that. The point is, the ladder exists and it seems everyone on it is climbing in one direction.
I can only see a few possible decisions being made on this ladder. Either you manage to climb up the ladder, which would prevent the person above you from climbing, or you decide to climb down the ladder, which would make the person below you happy but at the obvious cost of you never climbing up. Or you can just jump off the ladder, forget about it, and who knows, you may just land on a shorter ladder with a person from the previous one.
Let's go back to cupcakes now, just to clarify this. We'll use B as the first example, since they are covered on two sides by A and C. B has a choice, share their cupcake with either A or C. At one point in time, B wanted to share their cupcake with A, but A wanted to share their own with another, the ladder was reversed at the time as you can see. At one point, A and B almost did share cupcakes, obviously they both wanted to share them with each other. But now, somehow, B wants to share with C. C is great in many ways I'm sure, probably bakes a really good cupcake. But remember, C wants to share that cupcake with D. A doesn't understand why B won't just pick them, after all, it's a really good cupcake and the two can totally share, and both A and B know this. B is determined to get C, I'm sure for a number of reasons, B could be happy if they shared with A, really could be, but for whatever reason, B feels like sharing with C (hopefully for the right reasons and not the wrong, because when the ladder was reversed, A had decided to climb and that ended up being the wrong choice because it was based on the wrong reasons.) Now, I'm not quite sure how C is in relation to B, perhaps C is willing to share with B, yet really wants to share with D. D doesn't want to share with C at all. I think that clarified.
Hopefully you followed along with all of that. That was the ladder and if you haven't figured it out yet, the cupcake is your heart. If you find yourself on this ladder, the best bet and advice I can give at the moment is to talk with the rungs of the ladder you are aware of. Seriously, everyone just gets into a group discussion. Not only would that be incredibly fun if you let it, it will help a lot and might go better than you think.